Tension–—
Tension can be defined as an act of stretching or straining.
Tension can also be defined as mental or emotional strain;intense,suppressed suspense, anxiety or excitement.
Tension is the result of a strained relationship between individuals, groups, society etc. etc
.Questions like “ What,If “ usually increase TENSION and WORRIES,hence keep your self away from the questions like “what,if,If I do this or I not do that.
As per a recent survey ‘Negative self talk (negativity )increases Tension, so avoid negative self talk.
Side effects of Tension
Tension is a worst possible disease , which kills the person, even when he/ she is physically alive.
Tension imparts worst possible discomfort/दुःख and what not and makes the life of the person ,thus affected miserable
TENSION is the root cause of all diseases may they be of the HEART or of the MIND and spreads to almost every organ of our body
Tension adversely effects the power of making the correct decisions and makes an individual mentally unstable.
Tension also disturb mental peace..
Tension will thus break all the happiness of ones life.
Tension will give nothing to us except worries and depression and make us mentally sick .
.As per a recent survey ‘Negative self talk (negativity )increases the tension. Hence avoid negative self talk.
Management of Stress/Tension
Tension can be managed by using the Four A’s
Change the situation:
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Change your reaction:
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Stress management — the strategy
Technics to avoid unnecessary stress—-–
Avoid the stress giver—–
Learn to say “no”
Avoid people who stress you out– If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship entirely.
Take control of your environment– If the evening news makes you anxious, turn the TV off. If traffic rush makes you tense, take a longer and less busy route. If going to the market is an unpleasant chore, do your grocery shopping online.
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Avoid hot-button topics–If you get upset over religion or politics, cross them off from you conversation list. Avoid unnecessary unpleasant arguments.
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Draw out your to-do and not to do List–— Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. , distinguish between the “should s” and the “musts. Also try to have a mental make up of not falling prey to unpleasant and discomforting attitude.
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Alter the stress provider——
If you can’t avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so that such problem do not occur in future.
Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you don’t voice your feelings, disgruntlement will build up in you and you could be cruel to your self ,thus causing Tension.
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Be willing to compromise.When you ask someone to change his behavior, be willing to do the same towards him. Thus. If both are willing to bend a little, then there will be a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.
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Be more assertive–.Don’t take a backseat in your own life. Deal with problems head on,
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Manage your time better.Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. When you’re stretched too much be patient composed and balanced and thus unnecessary Tension will be pushed off.
Adapt to the stress giver——
If you can’t change the stress or, change yourself. You can adapt to stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude.
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Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favorite radio station, or enjoy some alone time.
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Look at the big picture.Take perspective of the stressful situation. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.
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Adjust your standards.. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”
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Focus on the positive.When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective.
Adjusting Your Attitude
How you think, can have a profound effect on your emotional and physical well-being. Each time you think a negative thought about yourself, your body reacts as if it were in the throes of a tension-filled situation. If you see good things about yourself, you are more likely to feel good; the reverse is also true. Eliminate words such as “always,” “never,” “should,” and “must.” These are telltale marks of self-defeating thoughts.
Accept the things you can’t change
.Don’t try to control the uncontrollable.Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.
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Look for the upside.As the saying goes, “What does not kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. .
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Share your feelings.Talk to a trusted friend face to face or make an appointment with one self to self analyze the situation earnestly.
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Learn to forgive.Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentments.Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving ,remember that MAHATAMA ( महात्मा गाँधी) has told us that it requires utmost courage to be forgiving and Brave .
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Break the cycle of WORRY ( चिन्ता का चक्र व्यू ).
- Do not live in FEAR, Be away from the Ghost of FEAR.
.Never get your self EXCITED and loose your cool even in the most unfavorable situations
Keep your family united and maintain harmony of thoughts among all family members.
Neither think or bother about past nor about future , But think of the present and live in the present.
Perform Meditation for keeping away from the Tension.
Remain Con -tainted and Self satisfied.
.Some time weeping also could reduces Tension.
Become a self organized personality and for this a truthful regular Diary writing habit will assist you in recalling your pluses and minuses of the day spent of course with pleasure and without strain——–GOD bless goodwill——May Peace—prevail in the world.
Compiled by J.K.Garg