Usually ,we accuse others or raise our finger towards them for any wrong doing with us and this induces anger in us.Now, we have to think weather our ANGER is NATURAL, Actually anger is never natural. . We do our best for the good of others.In spite of this, that man makes adverse comments about us and make us unhappy and angry.What should we do under this situation ? Rather we should experience every moment of our life and should also share mutually the experiences and energy of others.
When ever we show our anger for others and become angry,In such a situation, we are doing anger on our self and this will damage only us but not others .By doing so we are doing wrong and one wrong can not justify the other wrong. Remember that ,we have no control over those situations which are happening outside, But we possess power and ability to control on those which are happening in us and we should correct our self and our situation. We should not become dependent on the situations as this may make us weak and angry,
As. our MIND/MANNA obeys our instruction/command and our mind will have to act strictly as per our instruction.
If we are successful in controlling our mind, then we are capable of correcting our own mood too.Thus we should do our best to have complete control on our mind and this can be achieved by MEDITATION,
When our mind is not in our control or is out of control then we will be mentally unstable, disturbed,will loose our mental peace.This may make us ill and unhealthy too.
How to behave with your child ?
Beating/canning/ scolding the child is very wrong, as it will crate negative feelings in the mind of child for you, imparting negative energy in child will create distrust.He may start disobeying and you may loose his love/respect . You may loose his faith and he may go on the wrong way/path .This will be disastrous for him as well as for you too.This will put one self in the the state of deep pain and agony.
Behave with your child in natural way, Give him love, affection, Listen his problems with full attention, guide him as a councilor,encourage him, uplift his self confidence. By doing so he will become a model child, then he will do his best .His mind will remain peaceful ,powerful and stable and he will be successful in all walk of his life.
Hence get work done from your child by LOVE instead of ANGER.
Anger will always send negative energy and this negative energy will certainly rebounded to you with much more intensity. This will create more and more negative KARMIC ACCOUNT,your mind will get disturbed, you will loose peace,and will invite more and more troubles in your life and even may make you physically ill and unhealthy and what not,you will acquire negative thoughts/attitude.Do not be hasty in your action, this may disturb you as well other mentality.
Clean and purify your Mind/Manna prior to cleaning of your body..
In our life, we have to make adjustment with the thinking,thoughts ,sanskars, feelings and emotions of other persons too.This can be achieved by accepting others as they are. This attitude of acceptance will be help full in making us mentally stable and sound
NEVER EXPECT ANY THING FROM OTHERS, as this will make you disturb
Remember ANGER is not natural,TENSION is not natural, DISEASES are not natural. Do not make them natural in your life.
It is not necessary that other person will agree with your thinking/view.You can not change the thinking/attitude of the other. Rather we should respect their view/ thinking
Your irritation is your own creation.Allow other to live as per their own perception.
Our act should send positive vibrations towards other,this may be helpful in weakening of their negative thoughts/thinking/attitude and will increase their positive thoughts. Give love and positive vibration to them ,so they become capable of changing them self for good.
Never discuss/talk /think about the weak points of other i.e. about their bad habits,etc etc. On the contrary, appreciate their good qualities/good thoughts.Encourage them,Send positive energy to them.
We all are not just a BODY, but we are a pure,pious and peaceful SOUL
Criticism always weaken the capacity of the man, while appreciation increases the capacity of the man.
Follow the rule of three “ A ‘ i.e ACCEPTANCE, APPROVAL APPRECIATION.
Never follow the rule of three “ C “ i.e. COMPARISON, CRITICAL, CRITICISM.
If you want to make other strong then you have to become strong.
Fasting can be a useful tool for minimizing /eliminating anger. Fasting can also be helpful in making you mentally peaceful too.
Make a self promise that you will remain peaceful and mentally stable in all situations, no matter, how difficult or uncomfortable.
-J.K.Garg
( This article is based on the lecture of sister B.K. Shivani )