Anger and its Management

What is Anger?

Anger has A Big Family
Violence is the wife—- worse half of ANGER,.
Stubborn attitude is the sister of ANGER.
EGO is the brother of ANGER.
Fear is the father of ANGER.
Back biting and criticizing are the sons of ANGER
To have Enmity is the daughter-in -law of ANGER
Envy is grand son of ANGER.
Hat-redness is the grand daughter of ANGER.
To make bad face of others is the mother of ANGER
Adverse effects of Anger/Krodh
Anger induces the instability in you and makes you a mental patient.
Anger work as a match box and it causes Burns to others, but first of all, it burns ourselves
When ever some one is in control of ANGER ,then he or she looses Self Control.
Anger roots out affection and love from your life.
Anger destroys our respect in Society.
Anger makes you friend –less too.
As per our religious books ANGER produces in us, many things such as, infatuation, confusion and it becomes the cause of loosing our logical and reasoning ability and finally it becomes the Sole factor for ruining our self.
Anger imparts negative effects on our psychology.
The Nature, Definition and Causes of Anger/ —-KRODH !
ANGER/KRODH can be defined as a state, in which MANNA/ MIND disagrees with some thing, and starts ignoring someone up to an extreme extent and has extreme envy, enmity, ego, pride hat -redness..
Unhappy means NAARAJ ( NAA means no, and RAJ means Secret i.e. NAARAJ means who does not know the secret. ) Hence an unhappy or NAARAJ person is one who does not know the secrets of Life.
.Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,”
Like other emotions, Anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure goes up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and nor-adrenaline.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events.
You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor), or any event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings
.When you’re angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, “oh, it’s awful, it’s terrible, everything’s ruined,” tell yourself, “it’s frustrating, and it’s understandable that I’m upset about it, but it’s not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it any how.”
Be careful of words like “never” or “always” when talking about yourself or someone else.
Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it’s justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself. Remind yourself that the world is “not out to get you,” you’re just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Do this each time you feel anger getting the best of you, and it’ll help you get a more balanced perspective.
Angry people tend to demand things: like— fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do things their way
. “I would like” something is healthier than saying, “I demand” or “I must have” something. When you’re unable to get what you want, you will experience the normal reactions—frustration, disappointment, hurt—but not anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn’t mean the hurt goes away.

Expressing Anger
The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. ; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors,
.People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings—
The three main approaches are (1) expressing, (2) suppressing, and (3) calming.
Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn’t allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
.Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your i

Anger Management
nternal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological reactions that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that anger you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.
Why Are Some People More Angry Than Others?
Some people really are more “hot headed” than others ; they get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person . There are also those who don’t show their anger in loud ways but are irritable . Easily angered people don’t always curse and throw things; sometimes they develop withdrawal symptoms.
People who are easily angered generally have a low tolerance level and are easily frustrated.
What makes these people this way? A number of things. One cause may be genetic or physiological: There is evidence that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered, and that these signs are present from a very early age.
Research has found that family background plays a important role. Usually, people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive , chaotic and non-communicative.
.Strategies To Keep Anger At distance—

Relaxation
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings.
:Non strenous , slow yoga’s exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

Problem Solving
Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself many time.
Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
Make a plan, and check your progress along the way.
Resolve to give it your best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn’t come right away. If you can approach it with your best intentions and efforts and make a serious attempt to face it head-on, you will be less likely to lose patience .—

Better Communication
Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate.
The first thing to do—– if you’re in a heated discussion just slow down and think through your responses. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering, Be a good listener.

Using Humor
” Humor” can help defuse rage in an artful way.

Changing Your Environment
Sometimes it’s our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. .
Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some “personal time” scheduled to avoid stressful period.

Do You Need Counseling?
If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.

.What About Assertiveness Training?
It’s true that angry people need to learn to become assertive (rather than aggressive),
Remember, you can’t eliminate anger all together if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; You can’t change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses can make you more even headed.
Few more Remedies for avoiding the anger and getting rid from Anger–
Say—– Get -Out—— to EGO:

Tell Sorry, Seek———— .FORGIVENESS:

Be strong and try to digest Hot words and remain —- Cool,

Do not reply —SILENCE–IS– GOLDEN.

It is–Virtuous –to be—–TOLERANT.

Remember that anger will spoil all your good deeds and efforts ,while Love will make you successful.
Never think bad for any one. Do Good, See Good, Speak Good and Think Good.
Never expect any thing from —-OTHERS.
Never use bad language and speak –SOFTLY.
Remain Happy—-Keep—–SMILING.
GOD BLESS ,All of US—-LIVE HAPPILY

Compiled by J.K.Garg